In 2012, there was an estimated 65 million baby boomers. By 2030, the youngest of those “babies” will be over the age of 65. Chances are you have one of these special people in your life and you may be asking, “How do I take care of my aging loved one?” You are not alone. (Source)Get a Printable Copy of These Questions »
Making That Tough Decision
Making a decision is never easy, but making a decision for someone you love is especially difficult. The care you have to provide may not be the type of care your loved one wants. On top of that, this kind of decision is wrapped in a package of strong emotions. Past experiences, present circumstances, and anxiety about the future can cause a lot of self-doubt.
There are many different options available now a days to help you care for a loved one. There’s long-term and short-term care, nursing homes that provide services ranging from basic needs to physical therapy and daily care. There’s retirement communities, retirement homes, and in home care.
With the plethora of options, this decision seems like it should be pretty straightforward, but, in reality, this makes it even more overwhelming. To aid you in the decision making process, we’ve developed a checklist in the hopes that this will make things easier for you.
This list only compares in home care with nursing homes. The level of care provided by in home care and nursing homes can be very similar. However, the choice between keeping your loved one at home or putting them in a home can uproot your life. There are a couple things to keep in mind when making a care giver decision for someone else.
- What type of care does my loved one need?
- Is my loved one refusing to be moved from their home?
- Does my loved one have medical needs that I am unable to care for?
- Are these medical needs something I can take care of at home or will I need to put my loved one in a more long term care situation?
- If applicable, have I consulted my loved one or another trusted relative or friend?
- Is their place of residence (including my house if necessary) equipped to handle my loved ones individual needs?
- Do I have a vehicle equipped to handle the individual needs of my loved one?
- Do I have physical or emotional limitations that would prevent me from giving my loved one the best care possible? (Address burn out.)
- Do I have time limitations that would take me away from my loved one too often?
- Are there other people who depend on my care that would suffer from my divided attention?
- Am I able to consistently travel to my loved ones residence to give them the care they need, or do I need to move them to my house?
- If not, are there homes in the area that I trust to take care of my loved one?
- Is there an in home care service near me that I trust to come alongside me in the care of my loved one?
- How much would the day to day cost be for me to take on an additional dependent?
- How much would their medical care cost them or me?
- Do they have money set aside for their own care or would you have to take on the entire financial burden? Do you have trusted family members willing to share in the financial cost of their care?
- How much would it cost to make their place of residence or vehicle more accessible?
- How much does nursing home care cost vs. at home care?
You Are Not Alone
Calculate the risk of not acting. How long can Grandpa stay by himself? What would happen if you put off the decision to get him help for a month? Several months? A year? Don’t make a decision out of fear, but do remember that putting off a decision can be costly.
This process can cause a lot of anxiety. There are so many options for the elderly in the health-care industry. Knowing that you’ve considered everything from all angles, can really alleviate some of that stress. Our hope is that this check list will make your future less daunting. Remember, you are not alone.Get a Printable Copy of These Questions »